Healing is not linear, it is a process. You have to consciously make effort and take practical steps to heal, otherwise you will walk around with suppressed wounds or live in denial lying to yourself that you are healed, when you never healed. Time doesn’t heal wounds, it is how you nurse the wound. There is a misconception that many people have, they believe that when people say Christians are ought to forgive, it means that they have to suppress their wounds, however it doesn’t mean that. You can feel wounded, give it to God and nurse the wound, whilst not holding ill feelings towards the person or seeking to revenge. If you have gone through abuse please intentionally wake up everyday with the goal to heal. Complete healing is possible and you deserve healing. Do not rush your healing process, it’s okay to take your time.
There is being hurt and then there is trauma. Trauma is a different ball game all together, it’s experiencing hurt in an extremely deeply distressing and distressing way. When people have been traumatised it is seriously damaging to everything about them especially their psyche (minds). From the psyche stems how people view themselves, their thinking patterns, their lifetime beliefs, the natural flow of thoughts etc. As humans we were never designed to go through the intense levels of pain trauma incites, but because of sin people experience trauma and then the way they are designed to function by God is distorted. After abuse the trauma needs healing, your broken mind needs healing, your broken heart needs healing and your broken self esteem needs healing. Your perception of God also needs healing, because not having a good relationship with your earthly father sets the precedence of how people view God.
HOW ABUSE CHANGED ME FOR THE BETTER
The things that I went through, showed me the distinct difference between humans and God. Sometimes those lines are blurred, however I realised how impure the human heart can be regardless of how “close” someone is to us and I also realised how pure God’s heart consistently is instead regardless of how far away we can choose to be away from him. It taught me to learn to make God my best friend and to completely depend on him. Personally I don’t have any grain in me that wants to be vengeful to the whole of humanity, just because some people rejected or abused me. I don’t even want pity parties neither. I received the spirit of adoption (Romans 8:15) and I have a family through God. I’m thankful for everything that I went through, because if I hadn’t gone through those things I wouldn’t have experienced God in the way that I did. Deeper pain requires you to search for God in deeper ways. The abuse made me more resilient. God allows you to be crushed so that you are softened to have the heart of the Father and yet toughened so that you will not give in to people or the enemy’s pressure. I’m wiser, I’m a victor, I’m a conqueror and Jesus already warned me and said, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33). If you have been abused it’s not your place or job to try to figure out why those people abused you. Just forgive them and move on with your life. “Forget former things, do not dwell on the past. I am doing a new thing” (Isaiah 43:18-20). A lot of broken people love to try and fit in, not knowing God has specifically set them apart and marked them for a specific purpose. I always loved a lot of “me time” more than usual, but I didn’t fight it and try to fit in and now I understand why.
The area of relationships is a serious war zone, especially when you are called into specific offices of the 5-fold, because the devil knows that once he yokes you with the wrong people there is either serious delay concerning fulfilling your purpose or you are completely detoured from completing it your entire life. Please be very careful of counterfeits. A lot of us have a something is better than nothing mentality, so we get booed up with just anybody, because we don’t want to wait on God. However, when you have a specific purpose your life is tied to other people’s lives and destinies, you can’t afford to just date anybody. Your future children are also depending on you making the right choices in your singleness season, they deserve to not be birthed into dysfunction and chaos. When we are wounded, we don’t necessarily make the right choices that are favourable to us, because of our trauma driven beliefs. A lot of people end up with serious regrets over this, later on. Which is a breeding ground for depression and hopelessness. However, please forgive yourself and give it all to God so that he can use it. If you just came out of a toxic, abusive relationship, please don’t despair, God wants to use your mistakes, just give it all to him. In my wilderness stage God taught me so many things about relationships during that process, some of them were : 1. when a man chooses you, it’s supposed to be crystal clear, there are so many women out there, but when he chooses you it will be felt 2. relationships are meant to be progressive and produce good fruit not cycles of nothingness – friendship, courtship and then marriage 3. a man is supposed to go out of his way to honour you 4. relationships are only for healed and delivered people who know their purposes and whose purposes also align 5. a man will never know a good thing, if he doesn’t know God.
MY HEALING PROCESS
“I have loved you with an everlasting love” (Jeremiah 31:3)
There are so many practical steps that you can take to heal, however ultimately truth is when you look at the wounds that trauma causes, especially if you experienced deep trauma, from my perspective it is impossible to heal using the wisdom of this world only. Personally it was only God that could heal me. It was only through divine, supernatural healing that completely restored me. Nothing else could have healed me.Patched up wounds cannot suffice. A lot of people have patched up wounds, but they haven’t healed completely. Just, because you put a bandaid on a wound and neglected it doesn’t mean it healed. Wounds need to constantly be nurtured in so many different ways until they have fully healed. When you have childhood wounds you need to seriously deal with the spirit of rejection as well. You need to renounce any agreement you made with this spirit and then seriously pray against it so that it looses it’s hold over your life. You will you know you have healed, when you no longer have triggers or constantly ruminate on the past.
• INTIMACY WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT
The Holy Spirit is the greatest comforter and counsellor. When I was going through my healing process, I would go to my secret place and welcome the Holy Spirit and be still, removing all distractions. I would speak to the Holy Spirit and tell him what I had been through that hurt me. I would ask him to bind up my wounds, fill my voids until I’m whole and loose me from the memories of the trauma. When I finished I would close my eyes and wait for him to speak back. A lot of times I would feel his presence so thick. Sometimes he would speak back to me and I would see a vision or a symbol that would comfort me. Sometimes the Holy Spirit would drop a song in my heart and I would sing it and cry. Sometimes I would fall asleep in my secret place, but one thing for certain is that, with each session I had with the Holy Spirit. I would get up from that place feeling better than I was before. The Holy Spirit cares for you and he wants to heal you.
• SOAK IN GOD’S LOVE
Receive God’s love. Receiving God’s love is key. A lot of people sing songs about God’s love and tell other people God loves them, but how many of us actually know what it means and believe it? God’s love is described as an ocean, it’s excess. God actually desires to heal our wounds and take our pain and hurt from us. We should have gone to the cross, but Jesus went for us. Do you know how much love somebody has to have for you, to wish they could take your pain or suffering from you and then actually do it? It doesn’t matter if those people didn’t care enough. This is the best love to experience. Soak in it. God loves us just like his son. There is nothing that you can do that can make him love you less. Please mediate on these verses on God’s love for you day and night. Until you are full of God’s love for you – Psalm 36:7, 1 John 3:1, 1 John 4:16, Jeremiah 31:3, Jeremiah 29:11, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, John 3:16, John 15: 9-17, Psalms 86:5, Psalms 86:15, Psalms 136:26, Romans 5:8, Deuteronomy 7:9, Zephaniah 3:17, Ephesians 2: 4-5, 1 Peter 5:6-7, Romans 8: 37-39.
• TALK TO FAMILY & FRIENDS
Wounds need to be exposed to heal. Any wound that is hidden the devil will always have a hold on it and use it for his own purposes. Talk about what you went through to your close family and loved ones, because it is a very effective and therapeutic way of release.
• GO FOR THERAPY & COUNSELLING
Personally I think this is extremely important, especially Christian therapy and counselling. If you can afford it and have the time, please seek professional help. Talking to your family and friends is very helpful. However therapists and counsellors are trained to specifically deal with trauma in an efficacious way.
• SHUT THE MOCKING SPIRIT
God put so much weight in words to the extent where he said life and death was found in the power of words. There are people who released careless words to other people and those people’s spirits were crushed and those people are walking around dead inside. Sometimes these words were said, many years ago. That is why the bible constantly tells us to bridle our tongues and season our words with salt. When we speak to people we just don’t speak to their physical bodies, we also speak to their spirits and souls, the mind can forget, but the spirit and soul never forgets. The hurtful words abusers release to people keep on replaying in the people’s subconscious, as a mocking spirit and it persecutes them wherever they go. However, what people said about you or how they treated you has nothing to do with you. Please counteract the words of demons with God’s word. Read affirming words of what God thinks about you and believe the truth in it. Don’t just read it, mediate on it. Meditating on God’s word is important, because it hides the word on your heart. It doesn’t matter who didn’t choose you. You have a family through Christ. Verses that talk about your self worth in Christ are found in – Isaiah 43:4, Psalms 139:13-15, Luke 12:6-7, Genesis 1:27, Ephesians 1:4-6, Song of Solomon 4:7, Psalm 100:3, Romans 5:8, Psalm 27:10, Proverbs 31:25, 1 Peter 2:9.
• BE KIND TO YOURSELF
The enemy loves to threaten our identity through abusive people. In abusive relationships there is silent treatment, belittling, invalidation of feelings or there are completely ignored, gaslighting, domestic violence etc. People who internalize the cruel treatment are taught subconsciously to also not be kind to themselves. When you have lived most of your life being mishandled, your mind will start working against you and accept this as the norm. However, you are precious, please take care of yourself and do things that make you happy.
• DO NOT LIVE IN ISOLATION
Trauma survivors tend to live in isolation and this is a pitfall, because when they are alone their minds go into overdrive replaying the traumatic experiences which gives room to the devil. Nomatter how hard it is, there is a reason why God created family, neighbours, a church community etc otherwise if he wanted us to live in isolation. We would have been created on an island of our own. Stay engaged and interact with other people. Do some outdoorsy activities and avoid obsessively reliving the traumatic scenarios alone.
• PRAY FOR THOSE WHO ABUSED YOU
The bible instructs us in Luke 6:38 that we should “bless those who curse us and pray for those who mistreat us”. Please ask God to shine his light on the lost people’s paths, so that one day they will experience his love that softens hearts and they will stop the cycle of damaging others. Praying for people that hurt you will help you to release them completely and also help you to grow in Christ. Who doesn’t want a heart just like his?
• READ BOOKS ON HEALING
During my healing process, I read a couple of books which were :
Yvonne D Camper – Healing The Wounds
Joshua P. Smith – The Other Side Of Rejection
Dr Faith Wokoma – Healing Your Past
I also listened to a lot of comforting gospel music. I have a long playlist on healing that I compiled however the songs I listened to the most were Eddie James – Breathe, Jonathan McReynolds – Loving Me and Benjamin Dube – Through It All.
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people” (Genesis 50:20).
God commands us and requires us to forgive. Forgiveness and reconciliation is a must. However, restoration is not a command and not a must. Restoration is possible, however it takes immense work. It also takes a certain level of grace for broken relationships to be restored. We are given different measures of grace by God not everyone is able to restore relationships with abusers. Restoration means to get back what the enemy stole from you. The enemy capitalises on our wounds and when we are wounded, he sends us a lot of counterfeits and problematic people to deepen our wounds, so majority of the time there is nothing to be restored. When you are healed, it takes the leading of the Holy Spirit to discern whether someone’s chapter in your life is over or not. Forgiveness and reconciliation is for everybody, however restoration is only meant to be granted to people that have repented and completely turned away from their sin. You can never completely get rid of blood related relationships so those ones I have realised that the Holy Spirit will always do it’s thing automatically. However any other ones, God will not always restore them, because consequences for our sins, still remain. Personally, I forgave people who hurt me, I reconciled with some of them, I’m willing to reconcile with more. Would I want the relationships restored though? No I wouldn’t. I see those people as my family in Christ and I love them with the love of God. However I want God to do a new thing in my life and bring new people. Moreover the people I used to interact with in my brokenness, now we are in different seasons, on different pages, have different mindsets and on different levels with God. I also chose most of those people merely through the lenses of brokenness and entertained them out of a state of brokenness. So I wish all of them the best, I know those people have their own great destinies in God and I will always remember them in prayer.
If you also don’t choose restoration as a personal choice, make sure it’s coming from a pure heart, not because of bitterness, self righteousness or pride. There are definitely people who will try to force restoration on you though, however please don’t allow this. If someone was temporary and you took note of the lesson they were meant to teach you etc. Holding on to old, stale relationships that had an expiry date is how people end up back in the cycle of fruitless, toxic relationships. When people have no defined purpose for something, they end up abusing it. I have had people say to me they need to be in my life again to “compensate” and make it up to me concerning what they did. However this is not how true forgiveness works. If I truly forgive you and release you, that is enough. I have also had people who claimed they wanted to “take care of me”, however people cannot take care of you, better than God can. It was God who took care of you from the beginning and God who also took care of you, when those people betrayed you, left you, slandered your name etc, so you will be fine without them if their season in your life is over.
“For she has cast down many wounded & all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell. Descending to the chambers of death” (Proverbs 7:26)
The strange woman is a demonic spirit that is fabricated in hell and given set personality traits, then transferred to women who are bitter, have wicked hearts and do not mind being used by the devil to advance his kingdom. The woman that accommodates this spirit is what the bible calls a “strange woman”. This woman is then assigned to different men with an agenda to realign their destinies and then ultimately to kill them before their time. Anytime you discern a strange woman in a region or a territory, the man you see by his side is undoubtedly an evil man. No one else can permanently tolerate these two evil personalities, except for themselves. The strange woman has illicit sex with both single men (unmarried) and married men. With the single men, she causes them to stumble and fornicates with them and with the married men, she seeks to develop an adulterous relationship with them. With single men she gives them a false sense of relationship longevity and security, but merely uses them and then dumps them so that the men feel hurt, used and worthless. With married men, she seeks to destroy the marriage and also hurt the wife and children attached to the man. If the strange woman is not contended against, she is able to completely destroy a marriage and replace the man’s wife and become the new wife. The strange woman doesn’t love anybody, but herself. Anyone who trusts her will later have a rude awakening after she merely uses them for sex, money, attention, publicity, to hurt the “other” woman, etc. When the strange woman is done with her assignment in your life, your life is filled with great pain and sorrow. The strange woman has so much hatred and a vindictive spirit. When she comes into your life she pretends to like you, but she hates you and is actually scheming your demise. The strange woman and the evil man’s relationship is extremely impure and influenced by self ambition. Both parties are individually thinking what can I get out of this relationship for myself. They are both greedy people and often times are actually covetous and jealous of each other.
The strange woman is well positioned by the pits of hell, you just don’t “bump” into her or just “get along with her”. Both the strange woman and the evil man have serpentine spirits, which is a monitoring demon that monitors people with this spirit and communicates and cause the people to “bump” into each other. In a region or a territory, people with jacked up similar dysfunctional families, or similar demonic spirits will always align and date or marry each other for this reason, this is not a coincidence. Satan has a network of demons that communicate with each other for a common goal. The demons that possesses the strange woman normally cause the woman to stalk its prey or cause the target to blindly release crucial information so that it gains leverage in posing as this person’s soul mate. In the trivial things of life, opposites attract and compliment each other, however when you meet a strange woman absolutely nothing about you is different, you are tailor made for each other even concerning the smallest things, well so it seems any way. Narcissists always have a monitoring spirit demon. If you don’t like a person or you treat them bad, but also can’t obsessively stop stalking them to gain information about them. It’s not you, it’s the demon in you. If also you were hurt by someone, but you can’t stop stalking them it’s the demon in you that is causing you to engage with that other person to punish and abuse you. Even though the narcissist hurt you, when you have demonic spirits it’s like you are addicted to the pain you experience when you stalk them and see them with their new lover. When monitoring demons are expelled from people. The desire to stalk their ex satanic agents slowly ceases.
The bible addresses the strange woman in so many ways. She is called a “foolish woman”, the “harlot”, “loose woman” “seductress,” “adulteress,” “wayward wife,” “adventuress,” or “foreigner”. A woman is strange to a man’s bed if he is not married to him. A strange woman is polar opposite to God’s ideal standard of how a woman should be. We call a person a stranger if we do not know or recognise them. The bible calls this woman strange, because God doesn’t recognise this woman, because she does not live by the standards of the word of God that God established for women and wives. King Solomon loved strange women, because God said that the children of Israel should not be affiliated with women of other nations, because he did not want the Israelites to turn to other gods (Hebrew Israelites and hateful extremists often take this verse out of context, to say that God doesn’t want us to marry outside of our race and it is wrong, during those times, different nations and tribes simply had different Gods). The bible says men who lack understanding and are naive will be victims of the strange woman (Proverbs 7:7). People who do not seek wisdom and understanding in the word are outwitted by Satan. If you are full of the word, you will turn down the strange woman, but if you are full of yourself she will prey on you. “A soul that is full loathes honey, but even bitter food tastes sweet to a hungry soul” (Proverbs 27:7). The strange woman does not prosper in God’s eyes of prospering (Psalm 1:3-4), because of her wickedness, so she often uses the evil man to sponsor her lifestyle and drain him of all his money. She is lazy, so she uses her body to pay rent, buy food, buy flashy designer clothes, cars, etc. She loves a lifestyle she can’t afford with her own hard work. There are rare cases of the strange woman working, if this is done it’s only to work jobs that puts her in controlling positions to boost her self esteem. The evil man is also a culprit of using women for money. The evil man is either a workaholic and puts work above family or he is extremely lazy and expects a woman to take care of him, there is no in between when it comes to demonic personality spirits.
The strange woman seeks to latch on to men with influence, power, wealth or an anointing. The strange woman loves to keep a community upscale good image, whilst secretly she is an evil whorish woman. Proverbs is full of revelation from the exposure of the strange woman. Men who do not have God’s word hidden in their hearts follow the strange woman to her bed of sexual perversion with a smile, like cows that are going to be slaughtered (Proverbs 7:22). Whilst men truly after God’s heart, flee away with all their might anytime the strange woman tries to engage with them. When a man sleeps with a strange woman he is performing idolatrous promiscuity and it never fails, that the forefathers and father of this man also used to commit fornication and adultery with strange women. It is a generational curse, because nothing good ever comes out of a relationship or marriage with a strange woman, but pain, chaos, diseases and death. We see this generational pattern with David and then also Solomon his son. David loved strange women and committed adultery and his son Solomon also did the same (I Kings 11:1–8). Unless the evil man goes through a deliverance process and has a new opposing spirit to the strange woman he will always fall victim to her schemes multiple times, no matter how much more aware he will try to be the “next time around”. This man will only be attracted to strange women, but the relationships with the strange women are never harmonious in the long run or produce any good fruit. The strange woman and the evil man will always appear very alluring to fellow people that are dead in sin and not alive in Christ. They will seem like they live very exciting lives. If you live an unfulfilled life, you will definitely feel like you are missing out and you should be part of their lives. Not knowing that they are both hurt, angry, bitter people who experience pathological loneliness, have extremely low self esteem and are very empty. It’s just a deceitful front and Oscar worthy performance.
The strange woman and the evil man can never have a pleasant union, but also cannot break away from each other. The relationship between Ahab (the evil man) and Jezebel (the strange woman) is a punishment from God for unrepentant people, that’s why they are stuck together. They don’t love each other, they always argue and are cruel to each other, they always physically fight, until it’s time for sex or to use each other for any other selfish gain and then the disingenuous love is activated. The strange woman and the evil man that this world refers to as narcissists are people who have a strong spirit of delusion, which is also called a spirit of insanity. The spirit of insanity has been upgraded by Satan that nowadays your boss at work, pastor, spouse etc can be “mad” without you being aware, until you wake up and you are severely damaged by their manipulation and slick cruelty. The spirit of insanity operates in this manner : it calls evil – good, it calls abnormal things – normal and it calls destructive behaviours – good and pleasurable. The spirit of delusion and insanity, causes the strange woman and the evil man to see good characters, attributes and things in each other that are not even there, even though they are only in each other’s lives to destroy each other.The demon in the evil man manipulates his eyes and mind to idealize the whorish woman. We have physical eyes and then we also have spiritual eyes. Most people’s physical eyes can see, but not everyone’s spiritual eyes can see. Our spiritual eyes can be blinded by sin or witchcraft. In Acts 9:18 we see scales falling from Saul’s spiritual eyes and then he could see again and was baptised and repented. The strange woman and the evil man have legions of demons that call them and instructs them to do evil and they obey, because they no longer have any control whatsoever. The eyes of their hearts can no longer see destruction even if it’s looking at them in their face. When a person is stubborn and unrepentant and intentionally wicked even though they have heard the message of repentance numerous times. This is allegiance to the devil, what will then happen eventually is that the devil will send them a chief principality demon that is attached to so many other spirits and God will ALLOW this demon to oppress or possess them. This is the first judgement of God upon people with wicked hearts. The devil can’t do anything without God allowing it first. We see this with Job, the devil had to ask for permission first. If you show the devil faithfulness in obeying the small things for his kingdom advancement, he will promote you to be a full time satanic agent. The bible also talks about how God would give unrepentant sinners over to reprobate minds, unprincipled minds, depraved minds or delusional thinking. For being workers of darkness, the strange woman and the evil man are enemies of God according to John 4:4.
“Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done” (Romans 1:28)
Anytime you see a person consistently complaining about attracting or being attracted to the “wrong” people, they also have a huge part to play in why things are going that way. We are spiritual beings and our spirits are like magnets drawing everything that agrees with the state of our soul and spirit and for people with clean spirits and souls repelling bad people and things. An upright Godly woman barely gets approached by the Ahab male, because of her modest dressing and how she carries herself. The evil man’s delusions would think she is not “cool” or attractive, because she doesn’t walk around with her body parts hanging out. The evil man often pretends to be soft spoken and constantly seek pity for the injustices he gets from Jezebel’s whoredom from others, but don’t fall for it, they deserve each other. “The merciful man does good for his own soul. But he who is cruel troubles his own flesh” (Psalms 11:17). The evil man is attracted to what his heart is full of.Until the evil man and the strange woman repent they will always push away good, dignified people and embrace each other’s filth and call it love, this is the curse of the Lord for people that engage in idol worship of sin and refuse to repent. The evil man will always look down upon any other woman he is affiliated with and cheats or leaves her, whilst exalting the strange woman and deceiving himself that the grass is greener on the other side, until eventually a train wreck of the strange woman’s wickedness comes and hits him. However, even after the strange woman’s atrocities, the evil man still can’t get enough of her, he is still obsessed, because the strange woman is his idol. Anytime you try to love people the perfect, Godly way and they reject it, but want love that is unstable and hurts them instead, don’t take it personally, you are dealing with the strange woman or the evil man. Keep it moving and pray asking God for his mercy and grace to deliver that person. God is just using their delusional minds he gave them over to, to get back a fair share of the evil they sow to people who do not have the strange woman or evil man spirits. “Whoever repays evil for good, evil will not depart from his house” (Proverbs 17:13)
The evil man has a false good man facade. He is what this world refers to as a scam, a con artist or a fraudster. His personality is split, he has a closet, “secret” personality and an open, public one. In secret he is obsessed with fornication, pornography, masturbation and all forms of evil, but in the open he is a great Godly guy. People are often left confused about the whorish women the evil man dates or goes on to marry. They wonder what’s common between them, because the evil man is a covert (hidden) narcissist. Not knowing that the fruits of the evil man’s choices are merely a manifestation of what happens in his demonic “secret place”, he is just as wicked as the woman you see on his arm. Demons cause people to have an appetite for demons. The strange woman and the evil man are hyper sexual and are obsessed with having sex, it doesn’t matter who it is or where they are, they just want to have sex. The strange woman and the evil man are very comfortable with having unprotected sex with people they don’t even know well enough or have knowledge of their sexual health, because they are controlled by demons of destruction. The strange woman and the evil man walk around wearing grave clothes.People gobbling and eating each other’s genitalia areas that are meant for excretion and the shedding of blood like scrumptious food and sometimes even when the woman is on her monthly cycle is reprehensible and another example of people having an appetite for demons. Partying 24/7, orgies, etc are all appetites of demons.
Most strange women have strong internal altars in the form of snakes, different animals, inanimate objects in their heads or stomach that give them that alluring power. Those internal altars give them seducing power and you will think you are so lucky to have them, when in reality in the physical realm. The strange woman is so jacked up. The internal altars either come from a history of family familiar and inherited witchcraft or some strange women intentionally go and seek out these powers. When a man meets a strange woman, it’s his spirit versus the strange woman’s spirit. If your spirit is not strong in God. She will sleep with you and when she sleeps with you, those witchcraft things she carries will leave deposit residue in you.
THE STRANGE WOMAN & THE EVIL MAN’S LIFETIME ROLLERCOASTER
The Jezebel spirit seeks to create a never ending vicious cycle in homes and families. When the strange woman and the evil man have children they grow up witnessing the dysfunctionalities in their home or sometimes both parents are no longer together when they finally grow older ultimately creating adult narcissists children. Ahab who Psychologist says has borderline personality disorder, does something Pyschology refers to as “splitting”. Splitting is defined as black and white thinking or all or nothing thinking. People who “split” either see people as all good or all bad, they devalue and discard people. The demons in control of the evil man paints the strange woman as all good, because what an easy way to be destroyed other than being utterly obsessed and besotted with the very thing that wants to lead you to destruction. The demon that controls the evil man also paints any woman that the evil man dates without the strange woman spirit as all bad. The woman without the strange woman spirit normally loves the evil man and love rebukes and corrects, to bring out the best in a person. A good, godly woman will steer a man from a path of destruction to a path of life. Jezebel’s demons knows this, so they will paint any woman without a destructive strange woman spirit as all bad to the evil man’s emotions, mind and perception.
Unless Ahab (the evil man) truly repents and goes through deliverance he will sleep with each and every strange woman demon he is assigned to, because he has a spirit of lust. If a man still has an Ahab spirit and goes on to get married, if he once dated a strange woman, that woman is never an “ex”. She will always be in this man’s life, because the evil man can never say no to the strange woman, because it is a spiritual law of how curses work. It will live on unless it is broken through true repentance and consecration. Anytime something good is about to happen or happens in Ahab’s life (the evil man), the pits of hell will awaken the strange spirit and the ex will reappear in the man’s life, so as to ruin those plans or to distract him. The strange woman is only sent at pivotal times in Ahab’s life (the evil man), for example when he is about to write very important final examinations, when he has finally moved on and just got into a new relationship, when he has just gotten married to a good woman, when he has just gotten a new job or started a new business adventure, when his relationship with God is getting better. That’s only when the strange woman will appear in the evil man’s life.
As soon as the evil man moves on or gets married, the ex strange woman will reach out. She will remind him of their old “precious” moments together so that he reminisces and miss her. She will confess her undying love for him regardless of her numerous infidelities against the evil man. The evil man is a weak, passive man and is “hyper sexual” (unquenchable lustful demons), so he can’t resist her charm and body, so he will go back and start having a secret affair, cheating on his new girlfriend or wife. The strange woman will use the same tactics on you every single time, until you wake up. The evil man and the strange woman will start fornicating with each other or committing adultery and the strange woman will be transferring all the legions of demonic spirits she was accumulating through sexual perversion in-between their separation. With each time different demonic spirits will be imparted into him and his destiny will be getting altered bit by bit and he will straying away further from God’s will for his life. The evil man will go from bad to worse with demonization and this is how sociopaths and psychopaths are slowly birthed. Eventually after a few months, the strange woman will start acting up again, because the demons have sexually abused and used both of them enough for that time. The sexual abuse is in the fact that, the evil man’s demons will be having sex with the strange woman’s physical body and soul, whilst the strange woman’s demons will be having sex with the evil man’s physical body and soul. This opens a door to a spiritual husband or spiritual wife demon that comes to have sex with this person in their dreams which strengthens demonic covenants which manifests as illnesses and issues of life. Jezebel will start slowly withdrawing and initiating arguments after her lust subsides and eventually either just ghost (disappear with no explanation) or give a petty reason why they should break up for a while such as, “I need to find myself”, “I’m so busy these days”, “I need to concentrate on my relationship with God”, “I just realised that I’m not that ready for a relationship, because my ex hurt me too bad”, “I thought it would work, but I was wrong” and then she will leave the evil man to date and sleep with other men. When the strange woman breaks up with the evil man the demons will step aside for a while and lay dormant, so that the physical body of the evil man can fully experience the devastation, heartbreak and shame of their failed relationships he had extremely high hopes of. If the evil man wakes up first and tries to break away from the strange woman, she will form false accusations against him. Until the evil man receives deliverance, the strange woman will come back and use him for as long as she wants. The strange woman or the evil man never give people a defined straight forward reason for breaking up or give them closure, they need the door to stay open so that they can keep on coming back to distract and destroy.
THE FOUR WEAPONS OF THE STRANGE WOMAN
“And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot & a crafty heart. She was loud & rebellious. Her feet would not stay at home. At times she was outside, at times in the open square. Lurking at every corner” (Proverbs 7:10-12)
1. AN ATTIRE OF A HARLOT
The strange woman dresses as if she is a sales person selling something that is on her body. She wears form fitting, revealing clothes that send a code message to men, “look at me”. Her clothes have to expose her hourglass figure really well. Her clothing is so tight so that you can see the size, the corners, crevices and bumps. She wears ankle bracelets, nose rings, crop tops with waist beads, lacy see through tops, lingerie as outdoor clothes, low cut jeans and tops that expose the cleavage area with the intention to seduce. She wears stiletto heels to alter the shape of her calves and the movement of her hips whilst walking. The attire of the strange woman is worn to easily entice, woo and dominate the evil man, because the evil man prioritises the physicality of a woman more than anything else. Men are stimulated by their eyes, so the strange woman always knows what she is doing when she puts on an attire of a harlot. She knows it’s a great temptation. Lukewarm and hypocritical Christians defend their immoral dressing using “God looks at the heart”. However, truth is when God truly purges your heart, mind, soul and spirit. You will never be comfortable wearing an attire of a harlot. Whether you agree with this or not, a woman’s dressing exposes her true heart content and character. Clothes were created to conceal and cover, so when you decide to go against the grain and parade yourself naked, you are a rebellious, immoral, harlot. Adam and Eve hid their nakedness with fig leaves and the bible says when they realised they were naked they were ashamed. Anytime you see shamelessness, demons are also present. The half naked women on instagram are shameless, demonized women. Since the evil man is a hypocrite he often protests openly that women should wear modest clothing (misogynistic, he doesn’t really meant it) and desires for his wife to do so, but when he is alone he drools lusting after harlots and pursues them. When you meet an immoral woman the first thing that will capture your eyes is her body, because she emphasizes this, but when you meet a virtuous woman her soul and spirit will capture your heart first. A virtuous woman adorns herself with honour. The strange woman’s outer false beauty covers inner darkness.
*NB : Christian women are supposed to dress elegantly for their age. Modest dressing doesn’t mean dressing plain. I am not a legalistic Christian, so I don’t condemn makeup, heels etc. With everything God examines the intent and heart motive. Why are you putting on that or decided to wear that? The devil has perverted everything good, makeup is not evil per say, because the woman was beautified in the bible too especially for the king, Queen Easter was. The devil just managed to pervert almost everything. I have my own personal convictions, I will not wear or put on certain artificial things on my body that I will not mention. This is based on my personal relationship with God and I don’t enforce it on others, because they are not necessarily a commandment or precept of the word.
2. INTIMIDATING BOLDNESS
The strange woman will boldly nag you, until you give in to her selfish requests just like Delilah nagged Samson. She is overbearing and her approach is bold. Potiphars wife didn’t mince her words when pursuing Joseph. The strange woman has a loud and stubborn heart, even though she pretends to be soft. Everything that the strange woman does is to ultimately draw attention to her. At a gathering in a room full of a plethora of people, the strange woman is the loudest woman in the room that you keep on looking at, because her speech and laugh is loud. She exaggerates everything and is dramatic in speech, she makes a lot of noise even though she is ignorant. She openly say vulgar utterance and has no discretion about her intimate life especially her sexual life, to draw attention from men. There is no femininity, warmth, graciousness or kindness, with the strange woman. The strange woman is a woman, but carries herself like a man. Real femininity is not wearing lipstick, a short dress, a wig or having false nails, it is a gentle, quiet spirit. A woman can be feminine even in her most natural state.
3. SEDUCING EYES
The strange woman has no shame whatsoever, especially when it comes to pursuing men. I’m pretty sure we have all seen the seductress at play in movies. Usually the scene comprises of a man who is a drunkard drinking alcohol alone (this is why you should never drink alcohol, you are supposed to be sober at all times and watch and pray) and then a seductress also alone at another table. The seductress then starts giving the man an “inviting look”. A simple, foolish man will show that he is interested by engaging with her, focusing his eyes on her and then smile. The strange woman will then leave her table and go to the evil man to approach him. People in the world call eyes that lure and draw men “bedroom eyes”. When a strange woman is seducing a man that is the only time she pretends to be feminine. Every other time she is aggressive and has a potty mouth, threatening people, arguing and engaging in physical fights over debt and fighting for boyfriends. The more rude, unpleasant and manly mindset a woman has the more the evil man is inclined to date her, because well he is cursed and is effeminate, so he dates “strong women” that make up for his weakness. That’s why most narcissists males end up as gays, they have feminine demons that makes them crave for a “manly touch”. The strange woman seduces by consistent deep eye contact, she deflates her eyes to give a “sexy” look, she plays with her hair, bites her lips, smizes (smiling with your eyes), rotationally lowers her gaze and flatters her false eye lashes up and down, by doing this she is showing the man that she is interested in being his sexual conquest.Many people call seduction art. The non-verbal use of the body with a goal to seduce is the most powerful tool of Jezebel. The strange woman uses eye contact to communicate and build rapport, trust, sexual connection and tension, intrigue and increased desire and compliance. Seduction is “smooth”. Unless you have discernment and you have a relationship with God, you will never even know you are being seduced, because a seducing spirit will cast a spell on your senses and eyes and cause you to believe this demonic behaviour is normal behaviour.
“For the lips of a forbidden woman drips honey & her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter like wormwood. Her feet go down to death, her steps take hold of the place of the dead. So that she does not think seriously about the path of life. Her ways are aimless & unstable, you cannot know where her paths lead” (Proverbs 5:3-6)
Most dignified women will keep a reasonable distance between them and men they don’t know. These days some men are heavily demonized and closet monsters, so you cannot just afford to approach a man and start impulsively dating him and sleeping with him. However, the strange woman is fearless, she doesn’t have time to waste searching the character of a man she is drawn to or consulting God about him. As long as the man has something the strange woman wants, she boldly approaches him at night clubs, etc and takes his number or takes him home. Flattery is used as a weapon by the strange woman to create familiarity and to cause her victims to relax and make them feel like they know each other more than they actually do. So that the evil men can release money, feel comfortable to have sex or feel comfortable to release negative information about their girlfriends or wives that the strange woman can ultimately use to pretend to be a better ideal woman. The strange woman is very forward in her speech and conduct. Even if the strange woman is a vampire whose agenda is to suck your blood, she wants to create trust and wants you to relax. If you entertain the strange woman’s early flattery she will come back with more and will be slowly seeping into your mind, life, pants and relationships. A whore’s praise is excessive and insincere. She will give you compliments, use pet names “babe” , address you with false honour “sir” and tease you even if you have only known each other for just a few minutes. The evil man is always very insecure and being insecure comes with being unsuspecting and embracing anything, so the strange woman will feed his depreciated self love and instead of being alarmed by the getting too close, too quickly dynamic he will happily eat it up. The evil man is a people pleaser, so he will be proud of himself for being able to impress the strange woman so quickly. As part of flattery and tearing down the barrier of unfamiliarity too quickly, the strange woman will also never have physical boundaries from the get go, she will play fight with a stranger, sit on his laps, play with his beard, etc. For sure, she is very strange.
THE FOUR WEAPONS OF THE EVIL MAN
“Deliver me, O Lord, from the evil man, preserve me from the violent man. Who imagine mischiefs in his heart continually” (Psalm 140:1)
Principality demons that have more power and give orders to earth bound demons live in the second heaven or second dimension. Earth bound demons live on earth so that they are always oppressing and possessing people. As humans, we can understand each other’s characters and mannerisms regardless of our differences. However, when a person is highly demonized those demons are the ones in full control of the person. Mental disorders are personality spirits, so the person takes on the personality of demons and ultimately it’s like having a relationship with a demon. Nobody has ever gone to the second dimension and lived there for years and studied demons and their behaviours and then wrote a book about them for us to fully understand them. Nobody knows how earth bound demons behave outside of a human body. So when a “normal” person dates a highly demonized person they fail to understand the person (the demons). There is a lingering never ending mystery about a highly demonized person. Humans are raw, direct and can be vulnerable, however demons can’t. When you meet the evil man, you are drawn in by his mystery. You keep on trying to find out more about them, but with each time you never get them to a real, raw state where you can fully understand them. I have noticed a pattern of the evil man speaking like a robot, in ambiguity and having an obsession with statistics. You can sometimes have thoughts that this man is a “weirdo” and very different, but at the same time his weirdness is very interesting and appealing to you. Any time you see yourself being strongly drawn or pulled by a person, in an abnormal way. When you barely know anything about them. You are dealing with a seducing demonic entity that possesses that person. They are NOT that interesting more than your husband or wife, they just have demons.
The reason why the bible calls obsession with a person idol worship, is because when a person has these chief demonic spirits if you interact with them. You were engaging with that spirit, in love with that spirit and worshipping that spirit. Anytime you can’t move on from someone or you can’t stop stalking them, you are being seduced by a seducing spirit to stalk it. Don’t give in. Serpentine spirits are monitoring spirits, so they can see you stalking them and this gives them a legal right to bind you even more in covenant.
2. A TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE “PERFECT” IMAGE
When you meet the evil man, you are mesmerized by how much of a good man he is. Everything about the evil man is up to standard. He seems like he has very high standards concerning all his choices. He often has upper echelon taste buds and normally eats at expensive restaurants, he goes on vacations a lot, he wears designer clothes if he can afford them, he listens to “cool” music, he has a trendy cool hairstyle, he hangs out in lounges only, he drives a flashy car, he eats healthy food and routinely goes to the gym, all his friends are on the same “social status” as him, they are all just as “cool”. The evil man is just so perfect from the head to the toe. The evil man can tell you stories about how one time he rescued his neighbours’ dog or challenged someone for being disrespectful to a woman. The “good” evil man says things like, “I will never do that”, “that’s them”, “women are not my weakness”.
You are like hallelujah, you feel so “lucky”, you feel like the chosen one, the initial stages of meeting and knowing the evil man. The bible says, “do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers”, but in this instance, you might even start thinking God can certainly make an exception with this man, because he is just too good, even more than a lot of Godly men. But ummmmmm sis, you are speaking too soon, news flash : the evil man has no standards whatsoever.
The evil man is so pompous and prideful, but he lays with whorish women and prostitutes, that any drunkard or sexually frustrated man can just have for free to ease their demons. Men who lay with strange women wake up with flees and ticks that the strange woman rubs on them. So we can see through your false pride, brother. You are insecure, you need to heal and you need deliverance, because real pride is in being selective. Kings don’t just lay with any woman, they choose one quality woman and lay with just her in covenant all their lives and that one woman fully satisfy them, because they are not running around trying to find fulfilment in everything temporary and fleeting, but the only one that truly satisfies God.The evil man has an orphan spirit trying to find a “home” in every woman’s vagina and life. If you are desperate and date just anybody you need to be delivered. Narcissists need therapy not a relationship. The bible says in Proverbs 6:26, that a man who sleeps with a strange woman reduces himself to the value of a piece of bread. Bread is really cheap, no matter how “expensive” it might be. If you buy a loaf of bread and then count the slices and then divide the money you bought it with by the amount of slices. If you are an evil man that’s what the bible says you are reduced to when you “mess” with strange women. A delusional spirit is eating healthy food and going to the gym everyday to stay “healthy”, but also smoking, drinking alcohol and having unprotected sex with whorish women.
The evil man is good to everyone, but his close loved ones that are good to him. I don’t know about you, but I don’t care how good you preach, speak in tongues, prophesy or worship at church, if you treat a woman that was regarded as a weaker vessel for you to protect. Your whole religion is WORTHLESS, yours not God’s. Charity begins at home. If you see people being kind to everyone else out there in the community, without first being kind to the close people around them. They are hypocrites and the truth is not in them.
One easy tip to spot the evil man is examining how a man treats the woman he claims to love. That will show you and tell you all you need to know. The bible describes a virtuous woman as a crown to a man’s husband. When a man loves a woman with the true love that has been perfected by God, it is impeccable. It becomes the closest physical experience to experiencing the love of God. The man is proud to be yours and show you off. Narcissists aka the evil man loves lowkey, private relationships so much and if they show you off there is an insincerity to it. They only show off a woman if they measure her as a “trophy” and think she can make them look good to the society. If you are the popular girl or guy in university, the pretty or handsome person according to the standards of this world, the influential, wealthy person, the bossy leader etc and you can make the evil man or the strange woman look good and feel good, then they parade you and show you off with everything they have. They will carry you on their heads daily. However, if you are a virtuous woman who dress modestly, doesn’t care much about adorning yourself with a lot of artificial things of this world and false beauty and you bask in humility. If you date the evil man he wants no parts in showing you off. He just wants narcissistic supply, for you to feed his ego privately. So he will never show you off, because he is “embarrassed”, not knowing the real truth is he is embarrassed by himself and has deep seated insecurities that can only be quenched by Jesus. Psychologists state that narcissists experience “core shame”. If you have to depend on other people for confidence and self esteem that’s a dangerous sunken place to be. People are inconsistent and fickle to lean on them as if your whole life depends on it. There is no love in dependant relationships, get whole and stop using people as a crutch for your pathological inner misery. People who commit suicide over breakups are empty, insecure people who practiced idolatry. No betrayal is ever that serious, God heals and restores, it doesn’t matter how hurt you are. I know him as a healer. Get to know him as well, so that you can experience his healing aspect.
3. FALSE HUMILITY
During Christmas the evil man might give the neighbours gifts too. At his work place he is very helpful to everyone beyond his own role, he might even suggest to stay at work out of hours to help others. The older church women with no discernment praise this young man so much, they even wish one of their daughters would marry him. The evil man is just so “humble”, but the real truth is the evil man treats the close people to him with so much pride every time the demons manifest, it’s distasteful. The real friends he has, he uses them and burns bridges with them impulsively in an arrogant manner. He is very wicked and unappreciative. When it comes to the women the evil man dates, unless it’s a strange woman his evil side is unleashed to the fullest. If the evil man could have it his way, he would never show up at family gatherings, but because he wants to keep up with his hypocrisy and to appear as if he is a good man to a woman he normally abuses, he goes to mark the family register.
4. EASY GOING & SOCIABLE
The evil man has a Jekyll and Hide personality, he has two different faces to put on depending on where he isor who he is with. He has intense mood swings at home, but when he is at university, work, church etc he is very out-going and sociable. If you are a stranger and approach him to talk, he is very open to it and engages attentively. The evil man is often very knowledgeable and know science, philosophy, what’s happening in the news, the bible, etc. If you see the evil man outside of his home, he will be very relaxed and smiling. This makes him very charming, however you know what the bible says, “charm is deceitful” . The evil man is very charismatic, he is the joker of the family, always cracking jokes especially childish ones and insensitive ones. The evil man has a lot of friends, little children or older people; he engages with all of them. You might mistake this for an amazing personality, when this is merely regularly switched on and off. When the demon is laying dormant and inactive in the community he is nice, when the demon manifests in private he is horrible.
70% or so of relationships and marriages in this generation is a dynamic of the strange woman and the evil man, because people allowed the Prince of Persia to mislead them. The heart wrenching news that you see on tv about how a girlfriend or boyfriend woke up and impulsively killed their partner is a case of the strange woman and the evil man. Both the strange woman and the evil man cheat and have uncontrollable rage, so their arguments are always explosive. The strange woman is disrespectful, if you marry her, she will not only never respect you, but there is absolute no way she will respect your parents neither, because she doesn’t respect hers. Good women bring families together, whilst evil strange women tear families apart. The strange woman is much more wicked than the evil man, because even though the evil man is evil, she can get him to submit to her and give him orders. When the strange woman is done with you, she either projects a strong spirit of depression, anxiety and paranoia that may lead to committing suicide. She can destroy your reputation to irreparable pieces. She can transmit a disease to you. The Bible talks in Revelations about how God would cast the strange woman into a death bed. This is normally through full-blown AIDS or a strange incurable illness. The strange woman‘s constant search for thrills and escapades always open the door to a storehouse of STD’s, HIV or HPV in the end.
No matter how appealing a strange woman looks, stay away from her life path. Wise men learn to identify and avoid the strange woman. Discretion will keep you from the strange woman. Do not be a man who has a loose mouth and shares his intricate personal details on social media or to strangers. Do not be a man that shares the problems that he has with his woman with unreliable sources that cannot give him godly wise counsel, but can use that door to come in and destroy. Any time the strange woman is assigned by hell to a man that is literally the knock of death. Those who answer the knock suffer the severe consequences. The consequences of sex with a strange woman are dreadful. She is a grave threat to every foolish man who lacks understanding and engages with her. Solomon knew by experiencing strange women and considered them worse than death. The Bible says in Proverbs only a few ever recover from the strange woman’s wiles.
The evil man often has spiritual gifts like the gift of mercy, gift of giving, gift of knowledge, etc but because there are not submitted to the Holy Spirit. There are suppressed by demons. The devil uses them to advance his own kingdom instead : for example with the gift of mercy and giving, men with the Ahab spirit (evil man) misuse this gift by showing mercy to a demonic spirit. The evil man is used to sponsor the strange woman’s whorish lifestyle, instead of using it to show mercy and give to the less privileged, orphans or the church.
Disobedience has a lasting effect. Sin gives you temporary pleasure, but can cause lasting pain and changes. After you use your body for whoredom, you don’t get a new body even if you repent. Your nakedness that was meant to be sacred and only meant to be for your spouse’s eyes is imprinted on the people’s minds you fornicated with and committed adultery with. Your reputation is permanently destroyed, of course us Christians believe we are new creations, however the world at large doesn’t understand spiritual things, so they will always permanently view you through the reputation you built for yourself in your rebellion. “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold” (Proverbs 22:1). The pain you take people through that are attached to you when you accommodate personality spirits heals, but it’s never necessarily forgotten. There is nothing called being a “born again virgin”. Virginity isn’t a spiritual concept. Once you fail to preserve it to honour your future spouse, that’s it. More preachers need to emphasise the seriousness of sin, grace bounds – yes, God forgives – yes and then there is no condemnation after true repentance – yes, but sometimes severe physical consequences are still there for us to deal with. Sometimes some people are willing to forgive us and reconcile after we are used by personality spirits to hurt them, but sometimes they are not willing for God to restore the relationships even after you have repented and we lose good relationships for good. Some that were even divine appointments, because we allowed ourselves to be used by the devil. SIN IS SO UGLY. There is a high price to pay for low living. If you want peace, honour and to live a long fulfilling life and obtain everything that God predestined for you, stay on the path of righteousness and stay away from the strange woman and the evil man. The temporary fun is never worth it.
The strange woman and the evil man always go to church, sometime serves in the church too, they are both self righteous. “They honour me with their lips, but their hearts are far away from me. They worship me in vain” Matthew 15:8). For the strange woman and the evil man that knows there is God, but still choose to be wicked. Some of you have callings and purposes to fulfil in different ways in this world. We were created to worship God, but if you don’t want to worship God, stones will (Luke 19:40). God is not your grandmother that has to sweet talk you into doing something or the ex that’s stuck on you. If you don’t repent, he will simply give the assignment to somebody else to fulfil it. He is God. A lot of people are deluded, they whole heartedly believe that they can’t lose what God had for them. However, you can actually lose your birth right through disobedience. When the bible says, God will work out our mistakes for our good. It’s simply saying that he will take our messy situation and to revive it, that’s all. It doesn’t mean there isn’t a possibility of losing out, because of timing. If God wants you to marry someone, but you want to be a whore instead and you choose to not give up that lifestyle until you are 40. No, God is not going to tell the spouse he had for you to wait for you until 40. He is going to give them to someone else. David was anointed as a king, when initially Saul was supposed to be anointed, because Saul kept on living in disobedience and pride. Queen Esther an orphan replaced Queen Vashti, because of her pride. You can really get replaced, this is not a gimmick. The devil only lifts people up, so that the fall is very deep and hurts. God will always humble you as well, if you have pride. Either way no matter what, you will always be humbled, so it’s better to just humble yourself by yourself.
The bible calls God the ONLY great & DREADFUL. Dreadful means causing or involving great suffering or fear. If you don’t repent, God’s dreadful judgement will come upon your life. God is loving, but he is also a God of judgement. He loves everybody, so he can’t just love you only, more than the people who you hurt and returned evil to for their good. So he has to be just and vindicate on their behalf by judging you, so that things are fair. God is an all consuming fire. Fire has consuming and destructive properties. In biblical terms fire reveals the power of God. It is a symbol of God’s anger, judgement and destruction. If narcissists don’t repeat God will release his consuming fire on them. A lot of people assume that when the bible says you will reap what you sow, it means in heaven. No, you will reap what you sow here on earth aswell through the first judgement of God. Even if you repent you will still reap what you sow. My spirit strongly grieves when I see the strange woman and the evil man gallivanting day and night scheming and partaking in all forms of evil against God’s people with unrepentant hearts. They don’t know what awaits them if they die in those lifestyles. Forgive them father, for they know not what they do.
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death” (Proverbs 14:12)
THE ROOT CAUSE OF ALL MENTAL PERSONALITY DISORDERS
“Hurt people, hurt people”. Hurt people who do not want to forgive and heal, hurt people. The wounds we don’t heal, fuel our decisions and actions tomorrow. Decisions and actions fuelled by bitterness. Bitterness causes us to not see clearly, it clouds our view of things. A bitter person is a dangerous person to themselves and to others. Gall is the content of the gall bladder and anytime gall touches any other part of the body it completely spoils it and makes it bitter. A bitter heart is like gall. Most of us would rather pretend we are fine, rather than just admit we are angry, hurt or bitter and receive freedom. However it’s time to stop pretending, because bitter roots spread to the trunk, branches, leaves and fruits too. When you are bitter it will be exposed through what you entertain, your speech, how you treat other people and by how you respond to certain situations.
The issue of narcissistic personality disorder has become a pandemic now. Cluster personality disorders in the physical are a manifestation of the Jezebel and Leviathan spirit. The story of Jezebel is found in 1 and 2 Kings and Revelations 2:18-23 and the story of Leviathan is found in Job 41 vs 34. Both Jezebel and Leviathan are spirits that live in the water evidence of demonic spirits that manifested as strange water creatures is found in (Psalm 104:26, Psalm 24:2, Isaiah 27:1, Jobs 26:5, Revelation 12:12, 2 Kings 2:19-21, Job 41:31). Jezebel is a queen demon (merman like) and Leviathan is a king demon (dragon like), but both these spirits can possess both males and females interchangeably. The Jezebel spirit hates light, truth, order and authority. Personality disorders are passed down in families, there are a bloodline issue. When a child has a personality disorder, it never fails that both the parents have it and the child’s grandparents do too and it goes on, in the family tree. The bible says in Ezekiel 16:44, demons can enter the host through the bloodline, Ezekiel 16:44 shows this by saying, “like mother, like daughter”.
If a parent is abusive and abuses their child and the child does not forgive the abusive parent, they give the Jezebel spirit and the Leviathan spirit a door to come into their lives to operate against them. Children who are abandoned by their parents, rejected, accursed by careless speech, born into abusive families and experienced the father or mother wound through psychological, emotional or physical abuse and “illegitimate” children born out of wedlock have an automatic open door from childhood for the enemy to come into their lives due to their wounds. Satan uses emotional holes to come into our lives. Demons can enter the human body through different sins as well which include participation in occult activities, dishonouring parents, injustice to the weak and helpless, sexual immorality, alcohol, drugs etc. However, in this blogpost we are going to focus mainly on how demons ruin people’s lives through bitterness, because bitterness is the root cause of everything. Unforgiveness and bitterness is basically hating someone, which is also equated to murder in the bible (1 John 3:15). Bitterness is the only sin in the bible which explicitly states right next to it, that it defiles. The original narcissist is lucifer (Isaiah 14:12-14) . The reason why bitterness is a deadly sin, is because when you choose not to forgive you take on the very nature of Satan, because the reason why he is called Satan today from Lucifer is because of bitterness. Unforgiveness is the gateway to so many other sins – this is pride, self righteousness, hatred, revenge, jealousy and gossiping.
“Make peace with ALL men, for without holiness no man shall see God. Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled” (Hebrews 12 vs 14-15)
The bible says bitterness causes trouble and trouble means difficulties in life. Unforgiveness is a sin and sins separate us from God and open demonic doors and give the devil a legal right over our lives. God’s word tells us not to give Satan a foothold or a door to come into our lives (Ephesians 4:27). Unforgiveness can invite demons into our lives to torment us. Narcissistic personality disorder or borderline personality disorder are merely vindictive spirits. “I was constantly treated badly, so I’m going to stop being nice so that people won’t walk over me”. “Why did my father abandon me, I’m angry and bitter”. “Why did I not have a close relationship with my mother and experienced the warmth of motherly love like my friends, I hate her”. “It sucks that I can’t post my parents on fathers or Mother’s Day, because I don’t even feel like I love them”. “Why did my mother go overseas and left me”. These are silent voices repressed in so many people’s minds and hearts who have narcissistic personality disorders and these silent voices gave the devil a door to come into their lives. Bitterness is the door that opens so many spirits in our lives. The main spirit it gives rise to is the spirit of rejection. In my upcoming book I will address how the spirit of rejection attracts other people with the same spirit so that it deepens it and also causes the people to sabotage the few good relationships they have with people who actually love them so that it alienates them, so as to easily destroy them in isolation aka “abandonment issues”.
God led the Israelites to Marah. Which was called a place of well with bitter water. They needed water, but they couldn’t drink it, because it was bitter. Moses was then instructed by God to throw a log into the bitter water to sweeten it, so that they could drink. This was a prophetic sign that, bitterness had to go, for them to reach the Promise Land. The Israelites had more than 400 years of slavery that had been running through their bloodline and they were bitter about it. The Israelites wandered in the desert for so many years and many didn’t get to the Promise Land, because they still needed deliverance in their souls from bitterness.
Most interpersonal problems are grounded in spirit realm issues that’s why the bible says our weapons are not carnal (2 Corinthians 10:4) and we don’t wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, rulers of darkness and wickedness in high places (Ephesians 6:12), which are four ranks of demons. The scientific explanation of some diseases, closely looking at hereditary causes, diet and lifestyle absolutely make sense. However attributing people hearing voices everyday telling them to do dangerous or embarrassing things they do not want to do, and attributing this to “chemical imbalances” is seducing spirits lying to a generation that hasn’t delved deeper in the things of the spirit. Around 95 % of the diseases out there are spiritual. I read on a forum about a month ago, a woman saying she had OCD and she barely went out during the summer, because her OCD made her to believe if she looked at the sun, she would go blind. WHAT? The devil is surely cunning and him and his delusional spirits, false burdens, end time mind control, mind binding spirits and spirits of insanity are a liar. People with personality disorders often ALL have a pattern of cycles of rejection, rebellious behaviour, stagnancy, unstable relationships and inability to get married, eating disorders, reckless sexual behaviour etc and this is not a coincidence. Mental personality disorders were not there many years ago, but because of the increase of lawlessness and wickedness many strange illnesses are being discovered. If you are struggling with a mental disorder, but you still live a somewhat normal life, you have a lot of grace upon your life and you need to thank God. When Jezebel projects witchcraft in your life in the form of a mental illness: she wants you to be completely insane, because she knows she would have destroyed your legacy, because you can’t have a family or fulfil your God given purpose, because she has your mind in a witchcraft cauldron. Spirits of insanity are spirits that want to disgrace people & take away the glory that God gave them.
Self defence mechanisms and self-destructive behaviours people adapt as a result of coping with the abuse is how fear and anxiety demons enter people as children. If you are still using self defence mechanisms and behaving in a destructive manner as a grown adult, it’s time to seek deliverance from the demons trapping you in that childhood trauma. During dissociation, the demons will enter the child and make them feel like they are doing them a favour and helping them to cope whilst putting them in bondage. Many abuse survivors will tell you after the abuse they would binge eat (gluttony) or watch pornography, because this is the closest version of love they felt. Some would idealize absolutely anybody on social media, without looking closely at their character and force themselves to believe its love to escape their core shame and toxic loneliness that would be too painful to deal with in their environment. Obsessive love is a coping mechanism, because it’s latching on to the idea of love and ruminating on it, with absolutely anyone, because you want to distract yourself from your chaotic reality. If you are this person, I want you to know that, self-love is hard if you grew up in a dysfunctional home, yes. However coping mechanisms always hurt more in the end. Please heal, because self-love will get easier one day.
MY TESTIMONY – ME versus THE PYTHON SPIRIT
In Acts 16 Paul encountered a girl who had demons. The bible says she had a “spirit of divination”. In Greek mythology, divination was the name of the “Pythian serpent”, which means this girl had a python spirit. The python spirit is a spirit which is responsible for depression and all the mental disorders or illnesses of this generation. It lays it’s eggs in your mind and if you don’t put up a good fight and fight back, those eggs will hatch in your mind and will become a stronghold. People with anxiety disorders will admit that their anxiety grew over time until it became a disorder. Unlike other snakes, pythons don’t use venom to kill, because it cannot produce any. Instead it uses a technique whereby it grabs you by its teeth and then wraps its coil around you and squeeze the life out of you slowly and then swallow you in one piece. The python spirit intimidates, shocks, constricts and then suffocates. Anytime you feel constricted around a person or constricted within yourself, you are dealing with the python spirit that is squeezing the life out of you slowly. After the situation in the garden of Eden. God’s ruling was that, he would put enemity between the snake and Eve. Eve would bruise the heel (head) of the serpent and the snake would also bruise the head of the woman and her seed. When you are experiencing mental illness, your head has been bruised by a serpentine spirit. Years ago I battled what I regard as an intense battle against depression and anxiety. During that time I was home bound for a year and a half with my life at a stand still. So uninspired, so hopeless and so lifeless, I was pretty much on my death bed. I had stopped living, praying or going to church months ago, but then one day I had a dream…
In the dream there were hundreds and hundreds of what I saw as thick snakes. I was walking on a narrow path and on my left side and right side were these snakes. I woke up and thought nothing of it. A few weeks later I had another dream and in the dream I was in my bedroom, but everything in my bedroom looked really small, even the house was downsized and tiny. I felt so suffocated, but I couldn’t leave the room neither. I woke up and asked God what does that mean, because it was a very peculiar dream and he said, “in that dream you were in a coffin and that’s where you are going to end up if you don’t fight back Jezebel’s python spirit of witchcraft. RISE UP AND WALK, daughter of Israel !!! I know we haven’t talked in a while, but just trust me one more time and let us fight together”. I said okay God. Then I started fighting back. The first days I didn’t say much, I would only wake up and declare, “I will not die, but I will live to proclaim the good works of my Lord, Jesus”. Slowly my paralyzed legs started to gain power until I woke up from my death bed and started finding the strength to smile again, to take walks again, to go to the gym again, to go to church again. God had stirred up the victor and conqueror in me again. He said, all the tough numerous battles and pain you went through and you used to think it was “too much” for your age, they where preparing you and anointing you for a time like this, so that you would conquer and then help a generation that has been intimidated by the python spirit, when they were given authority over it.
I got tired of being a slave to fear and I decided to stop being lukewarm and wear the full armour of God and draw a clear line between Satan and all her spirits and me. I confronted the python spirit with the zeal and fire of God and the python spirit had no option, but to bow down to the authority of the blood of Jesus and the anxiety bit by bit started subsiding. The thoughts that caused the anxiety started coming into mind less and less and less. The python spirit started to loosen its coil over me. I had bruised the head of the serpent. It wasn’t easy, because spirits think they are gangstas and bad too so they would fight back aggressively. When spirits arise in armies and rule that this sickness will end in death. Only God’s mercy can save you, God will always raise a standard against your enemies’ “highest standard”. One day God spoke to me and said google the physicalities of different snakes and their characteristics and I normally don’t have time for things like this and I would normally be scared too anyway lol. But this time I had no fear, so I googled the snakes, zooming in and all that. I got to the really thick snakes and then I realised that in the dream that I had, had almost a year ago, the snakes were actually pythons. After this realisation God immediately said, python yes, but what does Psalm 91:7 say (remember the dream) and it says, “a thousand shall fall at your side and ten thousand at your right hand side, but it will not come near you. You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked”. After this realisation, I was charged up and moved by God’s faithfulness to his word and authority.
Surely in that dream those snakes were thousands, but they just minded their business as I walked on that narrow path, no snake tried to hiss at me or cross over to the narrow path I was. Who wouldn’t serve a God like this? Faithful even when we are not faithful. Even when I thought he had forgotten and forsake me and given up on myself, he was still there by my side, interceding, upholding me, sustaining me and waging war against hell. He is worthy. When the King of Kings makes an appearance, OCD, bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, borderline personality disorder, diabetes, high blood pressure etc, all have to bow down to the authority of “the only great and dreadful God”. The devil knew if I lived, I was going to give him a hard time and here I am. He wanted me to die with what I carried on the inside of me, but here I am. If you had an extremely complicated and tough childhood and you are also battling intense warfare of depression and anxiety. Please know that the devil wants to destroy your mind and ultimately you, because you are either a teacher, a prophet of God or called in the prophetic ministry. The devil knows you are the one who is going to aggressively deal with Jezebel in the end times. Victory over the enemy is a narrow road that a few will find and it will take faith. Only the violent will take it by force and win against depression and anxiety in this generation. So just like God told me to rise up from my death bed, he has now passed me the mantle to tell you to rise up daughters and sons of God and walk in your victory that was established on the cross. “For this reason was the son of God, made manifest, so that he would destroy the evil works of darkness” (1 John 3:8).
When Jezebel was done with a true prophet of God Elijah, he felt very depressed and suicidal, he thought dying was better (1 Kings 19:4), because the Jezebel, python spirit of witchcraft will drain the life out of you.
The cords of death entangled me, the anguish of the grave came over me; I was overcome by distress and sorrow. Then I called on the name of the Lord: “Lord, save me!” (Psalm 116:3-4)
SCIENCE versus THE BIBLE
In the cluster b personality disorders, we have narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder and anti-social personality disorder. For these disorders people do not have any physical deformities, physical pain or neither are they bed bound. These people are fully functional and do everyday activities like everyone else, they seem very “normal”, but they are very disturbed mentally, they are internally ill, which is what the bible calls “afflictions”. In the bible in Luke 13:11 we see Jesus healing a woman who had been crippled for 8 years and the cause of the sickness is attributed to “a spirit of infirmity” indicating that demons had been granted power to inflict a disability. We also see a man who was dumb and was healed after a demon had been casted out (Matthew 9:22-33). This shows us that no matter how much scientific explanation there is to all illnesses, in some cases spirits can manifest into any type of illness it desires. Demons have hierarchy and ranks. That is why some personality disorders are worser in severity than others.
Cluster b personality disorders are characterised by “symptoms” such as these below:
Medical symptom- sensitivity to criticism.
Bible – hating correction and reproof (Proverbs 9:7-9) (Proverbs 12:1)
Medical symptom – inability to regulate emotions, dangerous erratic behaviour.
Bible – male temptress, female seductress, manipulation and witchcraft (Proverbs 2:16-19) (2 Corinthians 11:14) (1 Timothy 4:1) (Romans 16:18)
Medical symptom: Idealize and devalue people, splitting.
Bible: The phenomena of splitting and idealizing and devaluing is merely bitterness. Splitting is basically demons manipulating people’s emotions. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:6-8) (James 1:22-25)
Medical symptom: Hypersexuality and likely to cheat.
Bible: spirit of lust and perversion, absence of the Holy Spirit that gives self-control (1 Peter 2:15) (2 Peter 2:18)
Medical symptom: unstable friendships and relationships.
Bible: you cannot know love unless you know God (1 John 4:7-8) (1 John 4:20)
Medical symptom: Chronic feelings of emptiness or pathological loneliness.
Bible: voids that can only be filled by God. King Solomon had it all, women, riches etc, but in the end he called it all vanity and worthless – Solomon 2:11
Other symptoms of cluster b personality disorders include fear of abandonment, but the word of God said God would never leave us nor forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6) and if we have God, we have all we need, and we should find security in that. Fear of abandonment from humans is demonic control from Satan, because (2 Timothy 1:7) says “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, of love and of a sound mind, so if you have a mind that is not sound and experience fear, it is not from God. Paranoia is also a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder. Abuse survivors often feel like everyone is out to get them. They are always looking over their shoulders thinking what if someone attacks me, robs me etc, because the people they trusted and were close to are the ones who abused them and caused them harm, so they start living in paranoia thinking what luck do I have with strangers then. If you experience this, I want you to know that, you are still here, because of a testament of God’s grace and protection, it hasn’t been about you looking over your shoulders, it’s all God, he will always go before you and make your crooked paths straight if you ask him and there are also a lot of good people out there who are not “out to get you” and have good intentions. Paranoia is from the enemy. Another symptom is core shame. Core shame often happens, because of what was done to you by people you highly respected and expected better from. Toxic shame and guilt is often projected by the abuser to the victim. The bible calls God, the God who blots out our transgressions and remembers our sins no more (Isaiah 43:25, 44:22). Shame pushes us away from God. When Adam and Eve realised, they were naked and experienced shame they hid from God. This is how the devil wants to strategically use shame against us. To all abuse survivors, I hate the word it’s all in your head, but in this case, it’s really all in your head, you don’t have to be bound by shame, stop isolating yourself. Body dysmorphia which comes with self-harm is also a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder. But the bible says our bodies were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:20), we were made in God’s image (Genesis 1:27) and we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Any voice that says anything contrary to these declarations is from Satan and we need to counteract it with God’s word and shut it down. Concerning self-harm, we see a man in Mark 5:1-20. The bible says the man was possessed with demons and he would self-harm and cut himself, until Jesus delivered him. Meaning self-harm isn’t a symptom of a disorder, it is a spirit that is given a right, by strongholds of not feeling good enough.
There is a medical term concept called comorbidity. It is the presence of one or more additional conditions co-occurring with a primary condition. The additional condition may also be a behavioural or mental disorder. One time I was reading a YouTube comment and a young woman said she had borderline personality disorder, type 2 bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, diabetes, complex post-traumatic stress disorder and an eating disorder and this is a comorbidity case. However the bible says, in Luke 11:24-26, “When a demon is cast out of a man, it goes to the deserts, searching there for rest; but finding none, it returns to the person it left, and finds that its former home is all swept and clean. Then it goes and gets seven other demons eviller than itself, and they all enter the man. And so, the poor fellow is seven times worse off than he was before.” This verse makes it clear why comorbidity is a thing. These people are possessed by the legion spirit, that is characterised by demons that move in packs and armies. In Mark the demons spoke back and said, “my name is legion, for we are many”. People with borderline personality disorder are also said to highly likely commit suicide, because they live in chronic torment. This again is not surprising, because we know that the devil comes to kill, steal and destroy (John 10:10).
CLUSTER B PERSONALITY DISORDERS & EARLY CHILDHOOD DISTORTION
Growing up in toxic, dysfunctional, unhealthy homes gives rise to so many trauma driven beliefs. Believes that those people fully believe as real, but there are not, because they were conditioned and programmed to believe so by their abuser. The enemy will give you suggestions that you are not good enough and if you dwell on the pain and bitterness sooner or later you will start believing the lies as truth and be engulfed by the enemy. People with childhood trauma often have trauma driven beliefs such as all men or women are like the person who abused them in their childhood, and this is the reason why now there are toxic feminists and toxic masculinity movements that hate on the opposite gender and blind homosexuality. Many narcissists are mostly misogynistic or toxic feminists which can often be tracked to childhood abuse.
“You Christians call everything a spirit” = ignorance = blind to the devil’s schemes = the devil is happy. There is a spirit behind every negative behaviour you just can’t bring yourself to stop. You must call these spirits by name. You must speak to the disorder or illness in your life, because they have ears and they can hear you. Tell them to hear the word of God and then obey it. You must bind the spirits which need to be bound and loose the ones which need to be loosed, you have keys to be able to do this, use them. “And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven” (Matthew 16:19)
HOW TO BE FREE FROM PERSONALITY DISORDERS
When Jezebel projects witchcraft to you. It’s important not to accept the illness. I have seen believers who take ownership of disorders and anxiety and say MY OCD, MY anxiety. It is NOT yours. It doesn’t matter if you feel like you have that illness or have all the symptoms. It is NOT yours to keep.
Deliverance is never overnight, it is always a process. Deliverance is more than just casting out demons, it’s turning away completely from sin, it’s renewing your mind, it’s healing wounds, it’s teaching people how to completely keep the door that opened them to demonic spirits closed. Churches that pick up people randomly from the congregation sometimes visitors and cast their demons out, operate in major damaging error. I don’t cast out demons from people unless they are highly demonized and are really struggling to cope. I take people through a process. People will honour the process that they go through to be free, otherwise you will have to cast out their demons every year. Only desperate people receive deliverance. Only people who are furiously tired of being a door mat to Jezebel and her demons and the torment and pain in their life get free and free indeed. Its a waste of time taking unrepentant people through deliverance. Salvation is an urgent matter, but it is also about personal will. No one can be forced into a relationship, because a relationship would require you to do free will relationship things daily, it is the same thing with God. God placed evil under your feet, but first you must sit at the table of your inheritance by wearing the full armour of God. Everything in the bible comes with a condition, for a latter tangible result. Many people think the things of God do not work, because they are not willing to endure the journey to the promised land, they want shortcuts. When it comes to sin, you got yourself into a sinful lifestyle and invited demons and illnesses in your life, you also must take yourself out by yourself by repenting and living a consecrated life unto God. The things of God are about protocols. Most people think they don’t work, because they are not willing to follow the protocols, because of rebellious behaviour. But even Jesus followed protocol, by coming down in flesh to die for our sins. Don’t go to a minister and expect that one prayer will automatically deliver you from things you got yourself into that are strongholds. Find out what strongholds mean in a dictionary, strongholds do not come down easily. I have seen people calling teachers and prophets false, because they didn’t want to do the work. The kingdom of God is about a personal journey with God, if we didn’t go through the process, we wouldn’t have the revelation of the deeper parts of God and what he is capable to do if only we submit ourselves to him. A pastor can pray for you, but if you don’t have the faith nothing will happen.
My senior pastor preached about Luke 19:10, a month ago. In Luke 19:10 we see Zacchaeus climbing the sycamore tree so that he would see Jesus, because he had decided that, he was tired of his sinful lifestyle and needed deliverance. He didn’t care about embarrassing himself, he didn’t care about falling off that tree, he didn’t have doubts of what if I do it vain and Jesus doesn’t see me. He had faith. Unless you get to Zacchaeus point of desperation, deliverance will never come. Unless you decide to cleanse your timeline on social media, separate yourself from certain friends, stop being consumed with looking “cool”, drinking alcohol, having premarital sex, watching pornography etc you will never receive complete deliverance. Eventually Jesus sees Zacchaeus (it wasn’t guaranteed, because Jesus was always around a noisy multitude) and went to his house, because when we draw near to God, he will draw near to us (James 4:8). The reason why I said deliverance is a process for some is, because some matters are foundational bloodline strongholds that you need to keep on pulling and casting down until they loose their hold and fall, because there are high up there exalting themselves. How long a person has battled something can affect the length of the deliverance process. Word curses by yourself that you established ignorantly or by people with much authority like your parents need to be renounced, if people don’t do this, deliverance can be long until this is identified and the curses are reserved and broken. Not fully surrendering to God as well can lengthen the deliverance process.
The python spirit is a monitoring spirit. That’s why people only have panic attacks at certain places or times only. There are always watching you. Obviously demons operate in packs. The python spirit lays 20-100 eggs, if you have been living a life of bitterness and sin or having an inconsistent walk with Christ. This spirit was bringing 7 other python spirits to you every time and they were laying 20-100 eggs in your mind times 7 demons. In the physical realm people won’t be able to see anything, but in the spiritual realm you will be walking around with hundreds of pythons that have hatched in your mind. Then in the physical realm you will start having intrusive thoughts, strange obsessive thoughts, abnormal phobias, thoughts of self harm and suicide, obsession with being cruel to people etc. This is mere demonic torment, it’s not normal. This is why deliverance against most demonic spirits will not be instant. If there were hundreds of demons influencing you, they leave a few at a time over a period. In Acts when Paul casted out the python spirit, the bible says they left WITHIN an hour. This was said to show that deliverance is not always instant.
Just as everything is about God’s timing so is deliverance. If God wants to teach you certain things or wants to train you for ministry work, it’s going to take weeks or months to be free indeed. However, in the midst of all this you will be lighter, have rest and he will sustain you with his supernatural strength until the battle is won. Have faith and keep pressing. Do not die before the promise land.
“Sometimes deliverance takes time, because God wants you to recognise the heniouness of sin , learn how to be persistent in prayer until God answers and mature your faith. The time you spend learning to deal with demons develops skills in spiritual warfare. God has a plan and a purpose for our lives which goes beyond receiving deliverance”.
When God frees you, your soul will be released which is your mind, will and emotions. Instead of fighting the devil from the inside where you have no control, you will be fighting him from the outside. He can only make suggestions to you that you can shut down instead of being controlled and having no control of your emotions, mind and will.
1. FORGIVE & MEAN IT
Relive the trauma, remembering every abuse and hurt and its intricate details and how it made you feel. Instead of continuing to be numb like your childhood required you to when you didn’t have a voice, this time allow yourself to feel it all and grieve and cry. Feel the pain, because the more pain you feel and release it through those tears and telling God how it all made you feel, you will be slowly letting go of the unforgiveness that was gripping you. You will feel lighter. You will receive healing. Write the names of all the people you need to forgive and forgive them . You need to forgive them with an understanding that, they were merely being used by the devil. I have heard many stories of people who were healed from arthritis, fibromyalgia, OCD, bipolar, diabetes and cancer after they let go of bitterness completely. I was one of those people too. It is not a gimmick. One time my senior pastor’s wife told me a story whereby, a woman was disabled, because of arthritis. One day she encountered a prophetic man of God who heard an instruction from God to simply ask the woman. “Where is your grandmother”. Immediately before she could even answer the question, she broke down and cried and eventually opened up and said my grandmother died, but she was the woman who raised me and abused me. The prophet told her to let go of the bitterness and forgive her and see what would happen to her arthritis. Months later she was healed.
Yes, you read that right, forgive God. I remember coming across a tweet on twitter that said, forgive God years ago and I was like, God can never be wrong this brother is blaspheming him, but as I grew in my faith I realised a lot of us are angry at God and the only way to let it go, is if we take it as if we are forgiving him. God is our father, he is a friend, that is why that famous song says what a friend we have in Jesus, it’s okay to be angry at God, but it’s not okay to stay angry. Bitterness at God is the same as bitterness towards humans, it equally defiles us. When we haven’t healed, we often look at God and say you are sovereign, so why did you let that happen God, but being sovereign doesn’t mean that (whatever you are thinking). We look at God and we say God why did you give me abusive parents, why did you give me a life full of obstacles, why me, why did you let them die, why have you forgotten me, why and why God. Then we are bitter at him, but you need to forgive him. As you keep on living, you will realise that every tough thing you ever went through was necessary for the seasons to come in your life. If I had not gone through abuse, childhood trauma and seasons of battles in my life I would not have gotten the wisdom to write this blog and help other people. God will use it all and turn it to good if you just give it to him (Genesis 50:20. The past, the pain, the fears it’s all God’s, not yours.
3. HUMBLE YOURSELF
The bible says God speaks in a still small voice. He is not like humans who must speak loudly and repeat them self, multiple times to make a point. God will never compete with our pride. Experiencing God in all his multi-dimensions, requires us to fully surrender and you cannot fully surrender if you have any ounce of pride. Pride comes from the belief of self-sufficiency and if you are self-sufficient why would you need anyone? But one who understands that God is everything and we are nothing outside of him, can humble themselves. The sinner must get to a place where they say God, I desperately need you. I cannot live this life anymore without you. You are not an accessory or a choice like some of the things in this world. You are the essence of life. There is no me without you. There is no sane me without you. There is no stability in me without you. You are Jehovah who sits on the throne of our lives. God is moved by desperate, humble people. Two instances in the bible we see 2 sick people being told your faith has healed you, because of their humility and desperation. If you want healing from God, you need to be humble and desperate.
4. SOUL TIES & WORD CURSES MUST BE RENOUNCED
Soul ties must be severed in Jesus name, because they are also a gateway for demons to come into our lives. Any promise words, sexual interaction that formed the soul tie must be renounced and repented from. Any gifts exchanged that might mean the relationship is still intact in the spiritual realm must be returned back to the person or thrown away. Curses that were spoken over you, by people must be rendered null, void and judged. Things like sororities and Greek life, participation in horoscopes, yoga etc must be renounced as well. A lot of people hold on to horoscopes and I have seen other Christians arguing with believers about them. Horoscopes is dabbling into the occult, it is divination. If you are a Christian that still argues with other Christians about horoscopes, yoga, sororities etc you are going to argue about your idols all the way to hell. I exhort you to take heed. The devil is hiding himself so well in games, music videos, sisterhood and brotherhood etc. Get your discernment up. In Isaiah 47:13, God rebukes Israel with: “All the counsel you have received has only worn you out! Let your astrologers come forward, those stargazers who make predictions month by month, let them save you from what is coming upon you.” With this verse we see that astrologers and stargazers are displeasing to God. There are in the category of sorcerers.
5. GENERATIONAL SINS MUST BE REPENTED OF
Daily prayers of repentance must include repentance of your sins, parents’ sins and forefathers sins, so that if there are any demonic doors, portals, ancestral altars and generational curses that were established knowingly or in ignorance are broken.
6. ASK FOR FORGIVENESS FROM THOSE YOU HURT
You need to take ownership of the mistakes you made when you hurt others. The Jezebel spirit is a spirit that seeks to kill, steal and destroy. It wreaks havoc in people’s lives. If you have been allowing this spirit to use, you as a tool of destruction for the kingdom of darkness. You need to reach out to the people that you did wrong and hurt and sincerely apologise. When we have people constantly speaking negatively on our name and crying on our name, it can activate curses, so make peace with all men. The bible also talks about how when you do bad things to some people, you were directly doing it to God himself (Matthew 25:34-40), this can cause us to fall short of God’s grace. Whilst you are operating under the Jezebel spirit it gives you false pride that makes you feel like you are immune to consequences, but the true reality is that you are not.
7. TRUE REPENTANCE
You need to repent of all sins. You need to repent from self-hate, self-unforgiveness, false guilt, rejection (based on false identities), fabricated personalities (when a person becomes somebody they aren’t to please or be accepted by others). We need to repent from using things that are initiated to the marine kingdom for false beauty and to seduce (decide this on your own conviction). Repent concerning the witchcraft control you partook in, fantasy lust, lust, seduction, self glorification, rebellion, perversion, unforgiveness, wrath, inability to apologise, slander, unteachableness, deception, doubt, unbelief, passivity, pride, false humility etc. When we repent, we need to stay free, because the spirits will hoover to try and find an open door to come back into our lives again.
8. CAST OUT THE DEMONS
The issue of casting out demons is controversial amongst Christians. Some believe Christians cannot have demons, some do. The spirit of a man belongs to God and their spirit is united with the Holy Spirit, but their bodies and minds, which is the soul can still be afflicted by evil spirits. When we get saved we get a new spirit, but don’t get a new body or soul. The state of our souls can only be cleansed through expelling of demons and consistent righteous living. Christians can have demons, but not be possessed as in ownership, because our bodies were already bought on the cross, we belong to God. Christians can only be demonized. Salvation doesn’t automatically come with breaking generational curses and freedom from demons, that’s why every Christian must go through deliverance after getting saved. Narcissists (people with cluster b personality disorders), however are possessed by the devil, he has full possession and control of them. Strongholds are rigid patterns, to overcome them needs strenuous work. Some demons will leave automatically when you forgive, some will leave when they are casted out and the chief demons will leave slowly as you become holy and righteous and stick to it. Demons are bold, stubborn and rebellious especially the Jezebel and Leviathan spirit they are very powerful demons. Most demons as well people struggle with had been living inside of them for years, sometimes decades so these ones are normally stubborn and cannot leave through self-deliverance prayers only, but fasting and consistent holiness. Demons desperately need somewhere to live, because they are disembodied, that’s why if they don’t find anywhere to go close by they go into animals. It’s important to know the nature of demons. They need to be told to leave with authority, otherwise they will not. This work was specifically allocated to disciples as well, that’s why self-deliverance won’t expel everything. There are Christians out there who have demons not, because they don’t have the Holy Spirit or live holy, but because of very simple things that defile them. Most believers say a Christian cannot have demons and the Holy Spirit at the same time, but we see Paul in Romans 7:21 saying, “I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is also present with me.” And we also know that God is omnipresent, so he is present everywhere, whether demons are there or not. Casting out demons was done by Jesus himself and the bible also says it’s also a phenomenon that would follow those filled with his spirit and disciples (Mark 16:17). Casting out demons is the believers’ bread, because the dangers of casting out demons out of unbelievers is, they will come back. That’s why after Jesus would cast out demons, he would make a strong statement and say go and sin no more. Satan hates deliverance ministry, because he wants people to be ignorant so that he keeps them in bondage. If you are dealing with personality spirits and have decided to repent and commit yourself to a life of holiness, please find a sound doctrine church with a deliverance ministry and get those spirits casted out and be free.
9. PRAY & RENEW YOUR MIND
Pray without ceasing and fervently. Pray continuously and persistently. Pray and pray and keep on praying. Pray against witchcraft, divination, sorcery, Santeria, juju, white magic, black magic, voo doo, spirits of the underworld etc. Renew your mind daily with what God’s word says. It’s not about what the internet and doctors say about disorders and illnesses. It’s not about what you feel, it’s about what God’s word says.
Although in this blogpost I am choosing God over the medical field. Jesus was all about balance, not extremes. I believe as Christians we shouldn’t be so spiritual that we are no earthly good. Humans are a composition of soul, body and spirit, so of course therapy matters to address the emotions and cater to the body. I believe therapy and Jesus should always go together, one shouldn’t be neglected or substituted for the other. Venting and talking about things and releasing is very important. Therapy will help with overcoming emotional repression. I’m not too much of a fan of Psychology though, because I believe its goal is to just give you mind blowing concepts with big jargon, but ultimately no satisfying solution. In a sense Psychology opposes God’s word. It seeks to make you a victim forever, but God said you are a victor and a conqueror, not a victim. The victim mentality is the one that fuels bitterness in people. Pyschology fosters unforgiveness and bitterness through concepts of “no contact”. Psychology points to humans as a solution to humanity’s brokenness, not God, but nobody can fix and patch up broken things more than it’s original creator. I see Satan in a lot of Psychology, Philosophy etc concepts. Unless you go to a solid Christian therapist, then you are better off not going, because a secular therapist will be used by the devil to foster your unbelief. A therapy session with an unbeliever therapist is 100 a session (just an example), the precious blood of Jesus is free. You do not counsel demons, you tell them to leave.
If a potter would make something and give it to you, then overtime you break it really bad. Who would be the best person to take that pottery to? The one who made it obviously. Because he would be able to not just fix it, but give you a new one if it’s too broken. God is your creator and there is nothing about you that he can’t fix. Science calls it disorders, God calls it demonic torment, the devil doesn’t care what you call it as long as he makes you suffer and ultimately kills you through an untimely death, because of pain and hopelessness. Disordered people are merely broken people, that can be made whole by their creator.
Narcissistic personality disorder and all other disorders are believed to have no long-term cure. CBT, DBT and EDMR therapy have all been tried and they haven’t worked effectively. When it comes to pills and disorders, the devil uses them as a placebo effect. The devil obviously loves to play mind games. He will show you temporary improvement sometimes, as long as he can torment you all your life and God is not declared Jehovah Rapha, then it’s all good by him. Some people died untimely deaths, because Jezebel is in full control of the pharmaceutical industry administering drugs to people, when she fully knows their illnesses are spiritually based. We must be careful of the drugs we take and use discernment, because some sorcerers have admitted to using “mind regulating” drugs to summon spirits and cast spells and curses . Jesus didn’t die so that you would just “get by”. He didn’t die so that you would drink sleeping pills and drown yourself in alcohol, so you can avoid your reality. He didn’t die so that you would have destructive coping mechanisms. Jesus Christ died so that you would live life in abundance.
“Those who have their minds on me I will keep them in perfect peace” – Isaiah 26:3
SCIENCE: There is no cure for narcissistic personality disorder. It would go against the disorder itself to realise there is something wrong with them, because they think they are perfect.
GOD: Your lifestyle will take you to a crisis and rock bottom one day. When that happens choose Jesus and be free. Or be unrepentant and stay on the path of destruction and perish.
SCIENCE: DISORDERS HAVE NO CURE
GOD: “WITH MAN THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE, BUT WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE” (Matthew 19:26)
If you are going through a self deliverance process. These instructions are not enough, there are just an overview and touch the basics. Please ask the Holy Spirit to lead you concerning what steps you need to take. Or if you need specific directions, please email me or reach out to me on instagram. A deliverance process will never be the same for everyone, the steps are based on the person’s past, family battles, personal sins etc.